Moms Unfiltered

This post is inspired by the first thing on my list. I was walking around the neighborhood the other evening & I realized just how annoyed this made me. This was something that never used to annoy me – in fact, I know I’ve been this person farrrrr too many times – & as I started thinking about it, there were a handful of things that never used to annoy me, that actually do now. Without further ado …

𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘺 𝘮𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘱𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘰:

1. People who park on the sidewalk, in a driveway. Hear me out here, I 100% used to do this far too often & really didn’t think twice about it, but as a parent who pushes a stroller now, it is INCREDIBLY frustrating when you get to a driveway & have to drive through the grass & sometimes even onto the road, just to get to the other side of a driveway/back onto the sidwalk. I get that it’s your driveway, but the sidewalks are actually public/city sidewalks & they just unfortunately go through all of our driveways. If you need to park behind another vehicle, leave a space for “sidewalkers.” Now you idiots who feel the need to park in the smack dab middle of the freaken driveway, when there are no other vehicles there, thus taking up the entire “sidewalk” portion” …. you’re a special breed & I do not have kind words for you. The end.
2. People who complain at a register where there is a long line of people, or only one/two registers open. There’s this wild thing at most stores called customer service. “The primary objective of customer service is to answer customer questions quickly and effectively, resolve issues with empathy and care, document pain points to share with internal teams, nurture relationships, and improve brand credibility.” In other words, customer service desks are for bitching. I’m sorry if that offends anyone but that is their purpose. If you’re upset about something, or don’t agree with the price of something, just grab your shit & walk your butt over to customer service. ESPECIALLY if the employee working the register seems like they don’t have any idea what they’re doing. — This is something that might have annoyed me a little bit before, just probably not every time it happened. Now when I’m stopping for a quick errand before I need to pick up my child from daycare on time or before it’s time to nurse again, you best believe my patiences are going to be prreeettttty thin if I have to stand in the only possible line waiting for you to bitch & moan about a tub of icecream being rang up 10 cents higher than what you think it should be.
3. People who mow their grass at 8:30p. Is 8:00pm late? Absolutely not. But if my baby didn’t nap much & was a holy crab ass & you fire up your ghetto loud mower after he finally falls asleep, I swear to you I will ring your neck if it wakes him. Mow your grass during during the daytime like a normal human being. Thank you. (note: this has not happened, however, when I hear people working loudly after little man has gone to sleep, it’s one of my biggest fears.)
4. & this last one is a biggy … The assumption that Dads don’t help with kids OR that Moms should be expected to do it all. This could really be a whole post of its own & likely will be some time.. probably more than once.. but the assumption that even though there are two parents in this child’s life, only one should be in charge of keeping them alive, is absolutely fucking bogus. I’ve seen so much on Facebook/TikTok lately about how much Dads are praised when they do the most minimal things for their child.
   • 🅂🅃🄾🅁🅈🅃🄸🄼🄴: I follow a couple on TikTok who recently had their first baby. The Dad did a video about how he was at a store when he was approached by a woman praising him for being such a great & involved Dad. He goes, “& you know what I did? I wiped his nose. I was holding my baby, he had some snot, & so I wiped it… & THAT made me an involved Dad. Now if my wife had been holding him & did the same thing, do you think that woman would have approached her & told her what a good Mom she was? Absolutely not.” — This is just 𝕞𝕚𝕟𝕕𝕓𝕝𝕠𝕨𝕚𝕟𝕘 to me! Why should a Dad be expected to do any less than a Mom?
   • In the early weeks/couple months of Kai being born, I had so many comments like: “I’m sure you’re exhausted.. Zac is probably feeling no different though.” or “Dads are so useless” … & these comments would just come out of left field, when I hadn’t even mentioned Zac. What’s even shittier is these comments come from women .. & some of them even other Moms themselves. I think this whole point bothers me so much because I truly have an extremely involved partner. Zac is a Dad who is constantly willing to help. Will he ever understand what it’s like to be a Mom? Oh absolutely not, but it doesn’t mean he won’t try. I also won’t ever know the pressures of being a Dad – something that is NEVER talked about & really should be talked about more!
   • Bottomline: it takes two to make a baby. I understand not all partners/Dads are as involved as Zac is, but they really should be. Gender roles should not be a thing anymore – Zac is the cook in our house & he shares just as much responsibilities as me when it comes to cleaning & taking care of Kai (minus breastfeeding ha.) If you’re a female who has this fucked up mindset that Dads can’t share the same responsibilities that Moms do, you need a reality check. If there are any men that read this – Dads or not – hear me loud & clear when I say that Dads are just as equipped to burp a baby, change a diaper, read a book, etc. as Mom is. I know, crazy.

& 𝘢 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘯𝘰 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘺 𝘮𝘦, 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵:

1. When people cancel plans on you. I hit a point in my life where I stopped caring to be out & about socializing & became way more about just staying put at home; I am way more of a homebody than my husband is. But since having a child, I rather be home even more often, if that was even possible. The reality is I only get to interact with my child for about 3 hours a day, during the week days. We get home around 5:00, we play a little, we eat, take a bath, play a little more & then it’s bedtime by 7:30-8:00. Depending on what time he wakes up, we may get a little bit of a time together, but it’s typically spent with him attached to my boob – it’s not real interactive time. So when somebody wants to make plans (that I can’t bring Kai with to) after my work day, it hurts me a little inside to say yes. I actually rarely do say yes if I can’t bring Kai with. But seeing other adults is important.. it’s good for our mental health to be around other humans, besides our significant other & child/ren.. so I do say yes sometimes. But I won’t lie to you; when that event, or that person, cancels last minute … I celebrate. Of course I used to get upset if I was no longer going to be going to dinner with my girlfriend, & once upon a time, it might have even wrecked my whole day. Now that I’m a parent, as terrible as it sounds, I welcome cancelled plans. Sorry not sorry.
2. When people call their significant other Mom/Dad in public. I used to get so annoyed by this. I don’t think I ever voiced it to anyone, but internally I was just like, “seriously? they have a name. call them by their freaken name!” & then you have a child … & all of a sudden you’re that person referring to your significant other as Dad rather than Zac, babe, hun, hubby, etc. Parent becomes your new title & in my mind, your most important title. I even welcome others to refer to me as Mom; it is by far my favorite title!

Are there any things that annoy you now that you’re a parent? or something that used to annoy you & now no longer does since becoming a parent? If you’re not a parent, would any of these things crossed your mind? or have they? Let me know all your thoughts!! 🙂

Until next time,
Mᴏᴍ ✌️